In my case, I started with small adventures. For example, I’d never been hiking so I went hiking. I also started journaling and taking classes. The point was that I was doing things again, I was becoming inspired again. That’s a good thing to remember- inspiration comes from living a full life and having experiences.
Number one, we need to go back to mindset. First, you need to let go of the old beliefs about what you should be doing. It’s hard to build a new career on a foundation of out-dated beliefs. So, we're going to destroy those old beliefs. To do this, grab a piece of paper and write down all of the “should’s” you’ve been hearing. For example, "I should be able to get a job right after college," "I should always have the right answer when my boss asks me a question." Look at all of those "I should" beliefs you've written and realize how limiting they are. Then, tear up that piece of paper!
Secondly, identify your strengths and gifts. This is key in finding out what you really want. The more you find yourself using your strengths and gifts in your life, the more your path will unfold. I started by reading two books: “What Motivates Me” and “Strengths Finder 2.0” and those are great. I’ve personally used them in my journey.
Third, get your laptop or a piece of paper and list your ten greatest accomplishments in life. After listing them, ask yourself what helped you to accomplish each item on that list. As you do this, you’ll notice a pattern. You'll see that the tools you used to accomplish each item are your strengths.
Fourth, look to your current and previous jobs for clues as to what you want and don't want in a career. Take a good look at what your sources of joy and frustration in each of those previous jobs were. Use those answers to find patterns use those patterns to inform you in what you want to do next.
Lastly, write a list of what you definitely don’t want to do. This is usually easier because most of us are very clear on what we don’t want. We’re typically a little less clear on what we do want. So, make a list of all the things you don’t want in your career (for example: I don’t want to dread going to work, I don’t want to be micromanaged), then turn those don’t’s into “Do’s." For example, "I don’t want to dread going to work" might become, "I want to feel enthusiasm before going to work." And "I don’t want to be micromanaged" would become “I want to lead at work.”
I was having stress dreams at night, constantly complaining, and I was nothing like the person I wanted to be. There was no promotion or pat on the back from my boss that could fill the void. I knew that if I wanted to get unstuck I had to take matters into my own hands and do the work.
So, I got a Life Coach and started to get into acupuncture and energy work to learn more about myself. I realized that I enjoyed empowering others. So, it's no surprise that all of that led me to a Career in Coaching. I now feel like I’m in the right place, with the right people, at the right time!